A week ago, my mom figured out how to get through my bedroom door lock: using a screwdriver. I’ve heard her on a phone call with my uncle, and he showed her the trick. Whenever I don’t respond or give in, she could just insert the screwdriver through my lock, and bam, she can come in whenever she wants to.

I’ve searched online for getting around this, and I’ve decided on:

  • Getting a lock. (or something that (b)locks the door)
    • Using a portable lock. (Addalock, any others)
    • Using a doorstop.
    • Make your own lock. (like using a fork)

But then I thought that my mom would still enter using the screwdriver. The handle’s loose, so she knows she’s able to barge in. I could be wrong, though.

My door jamb has a dent, so she has a peephole to look in and might figure out why the door wouldn’t open.

Should I be able to get a lock? If not, are there any alternatives or other solutions?

Edit: Wanted to make a quick edit. My mom shows narcissistic traits, and would barge in the room for her own entertainment. I’ve tried asking her to leave a few times, even discussing about it with her, but she isn’t seeming interested to understand or listen. I would stay as far from her in my room in order to not attract her.

  • LanternEverywhere@kbin.social
    762·
    10 months ago

    Yeah this has Bigger Problems written all over it. While it is useful to have a technical answer to this immediate problem, a method to barricading the door would at best be a delaying tactic. The actual problem will still exist, and there very likely will be retaliation like the mom completely removing the door.

    • givesomefucks@lemmy.worldEnglish
      474·
      10 months ago

      I mean, OP is a literal child…

      So on one hand it makes sense they’d think this would be a valid strategy “for a few months”, but it also means there’s a non-zero chance their parents are actually in the right and OP wants to stay in their room 24/7 watching streamers.

      Regardless of who’s at fault, CPS is a much better resource than strangers on social media.

      • InfiniWheel@lemmy.one
        263·
        10 months ago

        I mean, there is a problem somewhere if the parents feel the need to basically break into their child’s room. Either they don’t have an ounce of respect for their child’s privacy or the child is doing something worrying that truly warrants their parents being so paranoid about it.

        Either way, yeah, we aren’t really a good resource. There’s a much bigger problem here.

        • givesomefucks@lemmy.worldEnglish
          182·
          10 months ago

          Read the post again:

          Whenever I don’t respond or give in, she could just insert the screwdriver through my lock, and bam, she can come in whenever she wants to.

          It sounds like the mom knocks and/or asks OP a question and OP is just ignoring her until she opens the door.

          Then tries to hide?

          I would stay as far from her in my room in order to not attract her.

          Like, they’re acting like it’s Jurassic Park and their mom is a T Rex…

          A good parent would check on a kid that’s not responding and spending an inordinate amount of time in their room. They wouldn’t just let them hide in their 24/7

          • burgersc12@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
            92·
            10 months ago

            A good parent does NOT break down a door ffs. The kid isn’t dead, he’s hiding from someone who should make him feel safe. If it was a good parent, he should be able to make his own choices (to an extent) and shouldn’t feel the need to barricade the door from them

            • givesomefucks@lemmy.worldEnglish
              15·
              10 months ago

              A good parent does NOT break down a door ffs.

              No one says she has…

              Are you also 14? Because I just can’t picture a grown adult not getting this.

      • KIM_JONG@lemmy.world
        142·
        10 months ago

        OP is blaming Mom’s “narcissistic tendencies” and everyone instantly takes that side. But OP says the uncle helped her figure out how to open the door. So clearly the uncle is a part of this unjust conspiracy as well. The more reasonable conclusion is that the adults in OPs life might have good reason to be accessing their room.