When I was in 2nd grade, I was stuck in a corner for participating too much. This character flaw has followed me all my life. My ex told me people didn’t like me because I shared my thoughts too much, and I just got feedback from my boss about the same thing.
The thing is, I’ve tried to stop my whole life. I only participate maybe 10% of the time, and I generally try to let others speak first unless no one is speaking up. But I’m still getting this feedback. I’m like a bull in a china shop, knocking down everyone no matter how careful I try to be.
The only solution I can come up with is to assume no one wants to hear from me and disengage. Stop caring, stop thinking, and stop participating altogether. I already feel isolated from everyone. This is just making it worse. I think I have to face the fact that I’m not welcome in any degree.
Any other ideas?
I saw many of the ideas down there, I might add one:
Looking from the perspective of anxiety, maybe it is a form of inner coping mechanism of stimulation to relieve anxiety. If you want to relieve anxiety, you may want to send the flow of anxiety into another activity (walking, writing, aerobic exercising if you can, anything goes) and set a goal not to talk. Transitions like that are hard but it can be solved with creativity and dedication.