For context, I’m circumcised and expecting a son and my wife and I are torn about the circ. We’re American so from a cultural standpoint circumcision is the default choice. Thing is, there’s no real benefit besides practicing a religion we don’t believe in, and I’m uncomfortable about cutting the tip of my son’s dick off.

On the other side, I’ve met a guy who was bullied in high school so bad for it he got a circ as an adult. Apparently crazy painful recovery. I’ve also talked to women who are generally grossed out by uncircumcised men. I don’t want to make him feel like something’s wrong with him his whole life because I was uncomfortable with the idea.

From a moral standpoint I’m against it, but from a social and cultural standpoint I feel like I should do it? It’s a crappy situation. If there’s any uncircumcised American men who want to talk about their penis I’m all ears.

Edit: I really appreciate everyone’s responses I never expected to hear from so many people. With the decision hinging on social and cultural norms it’s been really helpful to be able to take the temperature like this. I obviously need to talk to my wife, but given the overwhelming support of dick hats I don’t thing we’re going to do it. Thanks, lemmings!

  • ryannathans@aussie.zone
    320·
    1 day ago

    There aren’t no benefits.

    Done properly, by a medical professional at birth, there are very minimal risks.

    Some benefits include:

    • much lower risk of UTIs, balanitis, etc when in nappies or old and unable to properly clean. This is important when UTIs are hard to diagnose in infants, and one of the most common infections. Leaving them too long can cause life long kidney damage.
    • likely reduction in risk of STIs
    • generally preferred by sexual partners

    When you’re an adult recovery is much harder, and sensitivity is generally affected for a few years.

    • troed@fedia.io
      12·
      23 hours ago

      The benefits you claim are not supported by science (linked elsewhere in this thread)

    • shawn1122@sh.itjust.works
      4·
      18 hours ago

      Several of these have not panned out in subsequent studies and also don’t adequately justify a procedure with a nonzero complication rate since they are reversible with antibiotics and preventable with good hygiene. The last point is also entirely cultural. It’s hard to imagine a non culturally Jewish, Islamic or American women preferring what is outside of the norm of what theyre used to seeing, as there is no functional difference.