I said a “100% anti-car extremist”, as in someone who doesn’t want any cars. I was raised in a very rural town. There aren’t currently many viable non-car solutions to get to the “big city” where I currently live. How, without cars, would I currently be able to visit my family?

I am not disputing the negative impacts of cars. I am not your enemy, and you do not need to fight with me.

I have a Kia Soul for that reason. It’s small, but can haul a decent amount of stuff. The back seats are spacious enough for my tall friends, and with the seats folded down I can even fit furniture like couches and dressers. It also has a low hood, so I probably won’t be murdering any children. Gets pretty good mileage too.

I’m not a 100% anti-car extremist, but I definitely wish we had way better infrastructure for public transportation, bikes, and pedestrians in my city. I work just outside the city limits, and my 30-40 minute car commute would be like 1.5-2 hours on a bus. In my current reality I am chained to my car, so I went with one that I felt fit my needs without being horrific.

Would Obsidian work for you? The notes are stored locally, and the software uses markup for formatting and stuff. You can get it synced to your phone with Dropbox, OneDrive, etc.

Watch out for Balrogs!

Honestly, a bit ESH. The temp was out of line shoving everything on the floor. I can understand being upset by misgendering, but it doesn’t warrant an immediate tantrum. Even if you were a hateful douche about it it doesn’t mean they should ruin the coffee and doughnuts for everyone.

I don’t think you were wrong to say dude. Unless you really emphasize the “dude” I think it’s a perfectly casual way to address people. Modern usage has it shifting more towards “cool person” instead of just “cool guy”.

I do think the “nobody cares” part was a bit insensitive though. I don’t know where you are, but tensions in North America are high right now regarding trans rights (not saying this person was trans, as there’s not enough info in the story). Lots of people care a whole lot more than they should about other people’s chosen gender expression, so it’s a touchy subject. I can understand that maybe you were coming from a place of “I don’t mind one way or the other”, but I don’t think that’s what it sounded like in the context. Especially with the “stupid” part thrown in.