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Cake day: January 8th, 2025

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  • ‘live in fear your whole life.’

    My guy, that is a wild way to look at anything. People aren’t germophobic for washing their hands. Are you worried about being seen as weak by a staphylococcus? It can’t be a worry about how humans perceive you because then you’d be sudsing up like a normal person because no one is going to call you a pussy for washing your hands but everyone is going to call you an asshole for not.

    Even if you are healthy enough to resist it, it might interest you to know there are people who aren’t, and maybe they don’t want to have to fight off an extra infection because you’re so shit-your-pants terrified of someone calling you weak that you can’t consider their basic needs.



  • One way to think of it is, just about anything one can measure about people tends to fit on something like a bell curve, and those curves are related in way re’anging from nearly totally correlated to nearly not at all correlated. People who are more ‘normal’ are those who sit closer to the middle of more of those distributions. This isn’t normative (what should be) just descriptive. (definition)

    Looking at the normative structures around this though, becomes a bit fraught at times. A certain amount of regression to the mean helps social cohesion, as you are less likely to have large conflicts if everyone can agree on certain basic facts, principles, and objectives, but too much adherence suppresses innovation and can turn minorities into enemies, which in turn increases conflict and weakens the whole. Where society settles in the spectrum between xenophobic conformist extremism and radical lowercase l libertarianism is one of the fundamental arguments present in every society, everywhere, and in every time.



  • I would agree in some senses, but not others. I maintain that it is good to be precise, and that most people can be taught to be precise, given time and encouragement, and it is only a society that demands everything happen ‘efficiently’ that turns time into a scarcity such that people feel they have to find something ill-considered to say immediately rather than think for a time and find the better way to express what they mean. There are those with a mental handicap, and I wouldn’t expect the same from them that I would from someone less limited, but I will always lose esteem for those who choose speed over truth when the circumstances permit the time, or choose precision incorrectness in the service of themselves at my expense.

    I make no claim of objective moral value, but rather the practical value. If one speaks, it is for a purpose. Speaking with the intention of being understood is the most common and speaking with precision serves that purpose. Speaking with the intention of obscuring is generally regarded as a form of lying, and lying can be regarded as a form of violation, akin to dosing someone with a hallucinogen, distorting their perception of reality. Such violations can serve a purpose, but they remain violations, and are generally not to the benefit of the listener. The general regard for someone who harms others for their own benefit, once the harm is recognized, is negative.

    If we want to stand back from the structures of social norms, personal interactions, epistemic/ontological stakes, etc. none of it matters, but we don’t get to live in that conceptual space, only visit.


  • Those are essentially what I am talking about. The speaker should want to be understood, and should make it as easy as possible for the other person to understand them. By choosing to ‘play a different game’ they are going against the cooperative principle, seeking to benefit themselves at the cost of others. The cost may be fairly trivial, like cutting in line costing the person behind only a minute or two, but it absolutely suggests the person doing it is selfish.




  • I’ve been trying different flavors on my machines with Nvidia cards. It usually just works well enough for me. Did Garuda for a microsecond, mint for a moment, Ubuntu for a few, and am now trying Debian and Endeavour. I’ve honestly had more issues coming from arch peculiarities than from nvidia. Just give it a go if you have the drive space. It seems like there’s more of a question of how well your chosen flavor meshes with your chosen hardware than one of ‘can I even get this working?’



  • Most forms of slang have a bit of that experience for me. The whole point of language is an attempt to make it possible to transfer information from one person to another. If someone is going to intentionally obscure what they are saying, they’re just being an asshole, making other people do mental work, either so they don’t have to (‘So I was, like, mluh’ instead of ‘I felt angry for being mistreated.’) or just to assert dominance. (using heavily obscurant slang their friend group came up with outside of the group, ‘totes mcgrotes crackin’ being used to mean ‘very horny’)







  • Little bit of each. It’s a bit of a catch 22 situation. The tipping system enables low wages. The traditional response to a bad system is to try to not participate. But then the underpaid waitstaff are paid worse until the system is changed, and unless a critical mass is reached, no change will happen anyway, so refusing to pay a tip in order to help the staff long-term hurts the staff short-term, and can only be said to be enough to make a change if it’s really hurting them. It sucks as a whole situation.