I’m a lesbian and my partner is also partially disabled. She manages her conditions but as far as we know, it’s as good as it will get. (I have chronic issues too but I am typically mobile.)

We like to game together. We watch movies together. She also games with her friends and I go out and do other more physically demanding activities with my own friends. We like to discover new food and talk about politics.

We found that our sense of humor and morality aligns well and we enjoy each other’s company. That and the fact that she was independent drew me to her.

Good luck out there.

The sound is bad enough but with properly constructed walls, it’s not a problem.

I have other problems with shared walls. Your neighbors have cockroaches? Now you do too! Bedbugs? Yep those can come on in too. If you live in an apartment, then you bet the landlord will cheap out and not do as effective treatments. You think being clean and not keeping things in cardboard will stop them? Maybe temporarily but they’re just waiting to come back out from the walls where they weren’t treated. Joy!

The other thing is that if your neighbor smokes cigarettes inside, then you get some bonus secondhand smoke. If you have bad reactions even with allergy medications and HEPA filters, well I guess it’s time for you to move or suffer. (You didn’t want to use your PTO on anything not sick days right?)

Did your neighbors have a plumbing problem that they neglected? Congratulations on your new mold in your shared walls. (You wanted to call code enforcement on your landlord about this? Good luck, they won’t enforce it.)

I’m sure there are real solutions to my above problems but my reality is that the only solution is to move when it’s too much to bear. (Haven’t lived in one place for more than 2 years because of it…)

Getting a BS in Computer Science was huge towards my success. I had to work while in college due to lack of funds. My job as a programmer paid very little before I got my degree. Even with years of experience, I had a hard time getting a dev job with an employer that paid better without my degree. With the degree, it was significantly easier.

I’ve heard of stories of folks that “made it” in dev without a degree. I did not have the charisma or whatever other skill they had to do it…

I will say I have quite a few student loans because my scholarships weren’t enough (I was an average student at best) and my family made a lot of money but didn’t help me so I didn’t get other aid I would have normally qualified for. For me, my very well paying job outweighs the student loan payment. My gamble paid off. (It was a fairly safe gamble, but one can never really know in the uncertainty of life.)

However, even in the last few years school has gone up in price A LOT so that may change the calculations for future folks.

Yes. I noticed that my shoulder hurts when I do that so I have been making an effort to stop it.

Time to fight the cacademons.

Oh man I am crazy for Jones Soda. Fufu Berry (which is hard to find in my area), Cream, and Berry Lemonade are my favorites.

It is pretty expensive, but for an occasional treat it’s not bad.

I used to love Coke, Mountain Dew, and Monster but I cut back and now they taste gross to me.

I went to artificially sweetened sodas. I started getting these gnarly tension headaches. (And sometimes my jaw would hurt too.) Bummer. I bit the bullet and just went with drinking less soda instead.

Ice really makes water taste a lot better at least.

Sonic Youth

Your orange kitty is precious. 🥰

Yes, Steve, Don’t Eat It! I think the first thing that I saw on his site was the FedEx logo thing, but Steve, Don’t Eat It was the thing that kept me on the site.

http://thesneeze.com/

I really liked this blog like 10+ years ago.

He’s got a lot of funny stuff on there where he eats unusual food, talks about a fungus growing on his trees, and other things he has observed. He even has an interview with Adam Savage!

He is also the none pizza left beef pizza guy.

And with proper software support, the aux jack can do some limited pause/forward/back!

I do really like Android Auto, but the reliability of the Aux connection is something I very sorely miss.

No cucumbers. Can confirm this is definitely the cat’s stall.

I think this makes sense!

It appears to be a type of irrelevant conclusion.

An irrelevant conclusion… is the informal fallacy of presenting an argument that may or may not be logically valid and sound, but (whose conclusion) fails to address the issue in question.

http://www.philosophypages.com/lg/e06a.htm

Is this what you were thinking?

I’m going to come up with a neutral one here for you. Mostly so you can get better replies… I would need to do some research to find a name for it.

Jess wants to draw a picture of a bird, using only red and black. She gets her art supplies out and finds she has no green markers. She cannot draw a picture of a green field without a green marker. Jess says she can’t draw her bird picture because she has no green marker.

Or…

When Alan plays tennis, his knee hurts. Alan has a strange condition that his knee only hurts after he plays tennis. When his knee hurts, he has to put ice on it. He stops playing tennis for good. Alan needs to get a new refrigerator. One is affordable with no ice machine, but another is unaffordable and has an ice machine. Alan bemoans he can’t get the refrigerator he needs because he needs the ice machine for his knee.

One of these?

Rest in peace, sweet Baer.

I am sorry about your loss. Losing a pet is hard.