• Helix 🧬@feddit.deEnglish
    2·
    8 months ago

    Only kicks upwards, not downwards. Has a backbone and principles. Doesn’t value money over meaning. Likes to teach people instead of putting oneself over them.

  • alt@lemmy.ml
    1·
    8 months ago

    The simple virtue of being able to genuinely express these words; “I don’t know”, “Sorry” and “Thank you” (or any derivative of these*).

  • Quintus@lemmy.ml
    1·
    8 months ago

    If a person carries their trash with them until they stumble upon a trash bin they instantly have a plus in my book.

  • vivadanang@lemm.eeEnglish
    1·
    8 months ago

    Books. If you go to someone’s house and they don’t have books, don’t fuck them. - John Waters

  • MrFunnyMoustache@lemmy.ml
    0·
    8 months ago

    There is a term in kendo called hikitate geiko. I won’t get too technical, but in essence, it is an attitude employed by a senior who spars with their junior that helps elevate their skills. It is more difficult than it appears, because if you make it too easy for them, they don’t improve, but if you make it too hard for someone, they won’t learn anything either; and at the same time, you yourself won’t benefit from the spar. By practicing good hikitate geiko, you are able to elevate your partner’s skills, but at the same time, refine and perfect your own technique.

    I find that this attitude is beautiful in every aspect of life, and isn’t easy to accomplish; I think this is a huge green flag when someone does that well, regardless of the situation or context.

    • tetris11@lemmy.ml
      0·
      8 months ago

      This. Someone who is willing to come down to my ignorant level in a subject and reward me for my tiny effort and interest in it, is an immediate win in my book. Though it is a hard line to cross without going into smirky/mansplaining territory.

      For example, Veritasium videos are always fantastic, but I can’t get over how the man smirks when he explains concepts, despite the fact that it’s his natural smile.

    • cheesymoonshadow@lemmings.world
      0·
      8 months ago

      Somewhat related… I work at a garden center and my manager is a professor of horticulture. When I transferred to her department, I thought I would be learning so much, but this woman has no passion for teaching and is cynical about everything. She sucks the life and fun out of work. Luckily I enjoy working with my other coworkers, and everybody likes me better than they do her.

      • MrFunnyMoustache@lemmy.ml
        0·
        8 months ago

        This really sucks, but I’m glad the other people there weren’t dragged down by the manager and remained positive people to interact with.

        • cheesymoonshadow@lemmings.world
          2·
          8 months ago

          Bit of an update… 3 out of 4 of us employed under her are planning to quit after the new year. We’re just finishing the holiday season because it’s a busy time and don’t want to bail when it’s all hands on deck right now.

          The 4th person is only part-time and we haven’t told him yet about our plans, so he may join us once he finds out.

          All of us are quitting because of the manager.

  • Omega_Haxors@lemmy.ml
    01·
    8 months ago

    They actually show up, or, failing that, tell you they aren’t going to show up and summarize why and when the next best time is.

  • naevaTheRat@lemmy.dbzer0.com
    01·
    8 months ago
    • vegan
    • soft spoken
    • patient
    • hands scarred/calloused from work
    • creases in face from smiling
    • casual manner/attire
    • walks around other earthlings on footpaths etc instead of through
    • puts their shopping trolley away, bonus if they round up others
    • mocks authority
    • is kind to children and listens to them seriously
    • beSyl@slrpnk.net
      1·
      8 months ago

      You said vegan. That explains the downvotes… And you said it as the first point even. Next time leave it for last!

      • Honytawk@lemmy.zip
        0·
        8 months ago

        At the time of writing, the comment only has 32% downvotes.

        Lemmy is a lot more vegan friendly than most places on the internet.

    • yetAnotherUser@feddit.de
      1·
      8 months ago

      What do you mean with

      walking around other earthlings on footpaths etc instead of through

      Is an earthling a human, an animal, a plant or subsets of those three? And what is walking through an earthling?

      I’m geniuenly curious, I have no idea what you mean.

      • naevaTheRat@lemmy.dbzer0.com
        0·
        8 months ago

        Earthlings are all of us, all sentient beings. We are from earth, we are the earthlings.

        Like not just plowing through birds foraging, or lizards sunbaking, or ants doing a nuptial flight or whatever.

        Considering others’ right to use space equal to their own.

        • yetAnotherUser@feddit.de
          1·
          8 months ago

          That makes much more sense, my first intuition was passing people on the sidewalk which… doesn’t seem like a red flag.

      • naevaTheRat@lemmy.dbzer0.com
        0·
        8 months ago

        Of course, authority is a pretty fucked up concept as implemented in our society. It’s almost always nothing more than the threat of violence for not subsuming your own needs to the needs of another. The other usually claiming that privilege through nonsense like birthright, wealth, closeness to power structures or similar.

        Anyone who uses such a ridiculous thing is at best a fool. Calling out injustice and laughing at awful people is definitely a green flag.

        Consider say the difference between interacting with a cop and a firefighter. The cop claims authority, do what they say or be tortured into compliance. The firefighter has no authority and yet I’ll bet you trust everything they say a lot more than the cop and are far more willing to cooperate.